A forced farewell

[reviews_and_ramblings]

In this moment I'm wondering if people know how hurt they can do with a simple click. I lost a friend on LJ some days ago, he removed me from his friendlist without a word. As I said in a previous post, I know that my LJ can be "particular" (to be gentle) and so I tried to justify that act. But it still hurt, since I believed we were friend beyond LJ. He has my email, he could say a word before doing something like that, and instead nothing. I didn't write to him since I had done in the past, when I noticed some strange things happening, a "cold" in our emails or comments that I hadn't found before, but he said that no, nothing had changed and I thought maybe it was a language barrier.

When he removed me from his friendlist, I removed him from mine too, it's my rule, but I fed his blog... stupid me, I was thinking to at least leaving a link. Then this night he removed me from another social network, again without a word... and now I hear the message loud and clear. I removed him too, from that social network and also from the feeds of my LJ. I also removed the tag I had of him but I didn't remove the posts.

I have an idea why he did so, and this make me even more sad. I really believed him a friend. I have learned a lesson more tonight.

ETA: I also deleted my account on Twitter, the worst personal experiences I had in these last months are due to that social network. If you were friend of me there, you know where to find me, I didn't friend no one on Twitter that it was not my friend also on LJ.

Comments

[snowmore.livejournal.com]

To me, there's a fine almost invisible line between real life friendships and cyber relationships. I am very close to the friends I have met online and don't feel any difference between them and my real life friends - only that I can't see or hear my online friends.

I'm so sorry for your hurt, Elisa. I do have an opinion that he's not worth your friendship if he can't communicate why he's done this. It's not fair to you. Take care of yourself. Life will feel better soon.
*hugs*

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Thank you Robin. Maybe he thought he let me understand, with his beahvior of the last period. But when I wrote to him, he told me no, it was only in my mind. In a way he did worst, since I was starting to get used to that, and instead he put a stop to my mourning process. Elisa