Gossip!

[reviews_and_ramblings]

I have a photo I like very much. Till yesterday I didn't know the name of the model, but a friend of a friend on my LJ unvealed the segret:



His name is Eric Balfour and I have discovered that he mainly work for tv fiction, like 24. But I have also read a very saucy gossip... apparently he lives with Ian Somerhalder




Ian and Eric and a third person at a party

Do you imagine what my naughty mind is thinking just now?

Yes, yes I know, I'm a little pervy, but well a girl can have fantasies...

Elisa

Comments

[cass1969.livejournal.com]

I've been trying to get this through the thick brains of the men in my family -- they don't get why I write m/m, but think it is perfectly natural for men to like f/f. Can we say double standards? :D

[ashmedai.livejournal.com]

Or macho insecurities, haha. *is traitor that way* :D

[cass1969.livejournal.com]

I have suggested to them that if they were more secure in their own sexuality then m/m writing/living wouldn't bother them in the least. You can imagine the response I got. LOL

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Ahhhh, never put in question men insecurities!!! Elisa

[ashmedai.livejournal.com]

LOL!! I wish everyone would be more secure about sexuality and sex in general. What's the big deal? The world won't come to an end, no babies will be eaten, it's only sex!

It's probably jealousy too, and fear of not measuring up. I don't know if women have that problem when their men view porn.

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

> I don't know if women have that problem when their men view porn.

Well if I think to a men viewing a porn, my first thought is, well, he can try that with me if he wants. But I think that mostly men (in Italy maybe), don't like to think that his woman could have some "thought" or desires...

Elisa

[ashmedai.livejournal.com]

That's unfortunate - men who think this way miss out, I imagine; they benefit from an enthusiastic partner too, after all!

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

I'm traditional in a certain way. I'm strictly monogamous: when I love someone, I'm so deep into the relationship that I can't see no one else (I'm a Leo I'm very possessive and passionate). And in a certain way I'm also arrogant: I highly value myself, so my thought is, if a man has me, why he needs to have someone else? And this is the reason cause I can't bear betrayal: if someone, friend or lover, betrays me, he/she is out of my life.

But these are maybe too strong feeling for some men. They tend to be overwhelmed.

[ashmedai.livejournal.com]

I'm not monogamous (though I've been in the same "main" relationship since I was sixteen years old and don't intend to leave him ever), but I think men are possessive and jealous too. Maybe in a different way - if it's "just" sex I'm fine with my partner being with someone else; but if there's emotional involvement I'd probably go crazy with jealousy too. But that's just me - I know plenty of gay men who couldn't handle being in an open relationship and insist on total monogamy.

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

> if it's "just" sex I'm fine with my partner being with someone else; but if there's emotional involvement I'd probably go crazy with jealousy too

Bingo! Here is the difference. For me it's impossible to separate sex from emotional involvement. If a man make sex with a woman, he must feel something for her (Consciously I know that it's not like that, but emotionally I can't think in other way), and so he is betraying me. You instead, separate sex from love: if your man make sex with another man, he is not making love, so it's all right, yes?

[ashmedai.livejournal.com]

You instead, separate sex from love: if your man make sex with another man, he is not making love, so it's all right, yes?

That's exactly it - it's more like...getting a hamburger somewhere. Yes, we really can be that shallow, lol.

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

No, not shallow, different. I strongly believe that people has the right to behave how they want (given that they don't hurt someone else). In the big and in the small thing.

If you have a partner who thinks as you think, it's all right that you have your way and I have mine.

What I hate most are those people who claims to love the others, but only if they choose to behave as themself.

Individuality and diversity are the most beautiful things in the world, they make us unique.