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I have a photo I like very much. Till yesterday I didn't know the name of the model, but a friend of a friend on my LJ unvealed the segret:

His name is Eric Balfour and I have discovered that he mainly work for tv fiction, like 24. But I have also read a very saucy gossip... apparently he lives with Ian Somerhalder

Ian and Eric and a third person at a party

Do you imagine what my naughty mind is thinking just now?

Yes, yes I know, I'm a little pervy, but well a girl can have fantasies...

Elisa

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> I think men do tend to see sex as something separate often, something to be consumed quickly and anonymously.

This is why maybe I like romance. In it sex is a always a big part of the "why" of the book (even if it's not graphic in detail) and maybe I like M/M romance, cause in it I find men who "think" and give to sex the right importance. In a classical romance I read only the female perspective and men are always supporting characters... I know the female perspective, it's my perspective, so I want to read about male point of view.

I read both M/M romance written by women and by men. I can say when it's a man or a woman... but I like both.

Elisa

I write erotica, but I don't read much of it myself, I admit. I'm more drawn to graphic porn, and mainly in "visual" format like a film or magazine. I do like writing erotica because I love to write, and I think there's a big difference between erotica and porn. I spent some time reading M/M erotica written by women, and since mostly women read what I post at LJ, I really had to make some adjustments in the way I write (which I gladly did - I think women write better erotica if they have writing talent, I really do, the quality is much better, it's not just about abs and biceps and the c*ck, lol). I don't think my writing is great by any stretch of the imagination, but I think it's improved a lot by doing that.

I have read some of your fiction on your LJ and I like it. Female M/M authors always says that they use male beta reader, now you (and also other male writer, like Bobby Michaels (who unfortunately it's again in hospital just now, my thought goes to him and hope he will be at home again soon)) say that appreciated female beta reader :-))) We will arrive to an ungenrized style? Where if the author is male or female doesn't count?

Elisa

I totally rely on my female beta - I'm glad I have a woman friend to beta, especially since I write BDSM fiction. I often bounce an idea off her and she tells me this or that activity (usually things involving humiliation) won't go over well with female readers. She keeps me focused and prevents me from going overboard on the kink and at the same time lets me know where I went too light on the emotional aspects, or where the male characters' motives need to be clarified more.

I recently read a short story by Syd McGinley. It's a Master/Pet relationship, between an alien Master and a human Pet, and the human is really treat like a pet. In another story always by Syd, there is a relationship between two Alpha male and their sex trespasses on violence sometimes... Well, reading it I have questioned myself if I like what I read, and in the end I said yes, but I don't know if I would like someone to do that to me... Elisa

BDSM fiction is pretty popular, even if finding good realistic BDSM stories is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Most people who read my stuff aren't into it themselves, but that's ok - I am, and it's always best to write what you know. I'd have a hard time writing a "vanilla" story because I can't relate very well.

Well, I think that reading something written by someone who "believes" in what he writes and not by someone who "follows" the stream is better, it makes it more realistic and so you don't have to questioned yourself if what you read could be real.

One time I discuss with Max on a book by Bobby Michaels. I like the book, but I have some problems to believe on all it's written in the story. I point to Max some scenes, and he has replied to me, "what do you find strange in it? It's normal...". In that moment I have understood that I'm a woman and Max and Bobby for sure are men.

Elisa

Haha - that's precisely the reason I'm glad my beta is a woman, she points things out to me and says "This will make no sense at all - explain!". :)

Can I be the devil's advocate? But if you have written it in that way cause it's how you feel it, changing it to be more understandable to female readers, it's in some way like bertraying your mind, style and gender?

Why you have to change it? Instead could I change my mind, and with me all female reader? Better why I can't have my mind and try to understand your way?

Instead could I change my mind, and with me all female reader? Better why I can't have my mind and try to understand your way?

I don't see it as betraying my mind or gender, more as clarifying it, showing what motivates and action or what the root of a certain mentality is. I think people can only understand something if it's described in a way they can relate to on some level. It's the same way when I elaborate on BDSM, and what really goes on in the mind of a sub or Dom, slave or Master, what motivates them and how they think and feel. It's always the greatest thing for me when I get feedback telling me I'm showing readers a whole new world and that they're beginning to understand it for the first time in their lives. I hope that doesn't sound like boasting, but I relate to people best through writing, and I think describing things in a way others can understand or relate to brings us closer together on some level. Because when it comes right down to it, it turns out we really aren't that different at all.

> Because when it comes right down to it, it turns out we really aren't that different at all.

if more people could think in that way, life will be a lot simplier and nicer.

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