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reviews_and_ramblings ([personal profile] reviews_and_ramblings) wrote2008-11-22 12:58 pm

Can we be really friends online?

I think so. In the almost two years I'm online it happened sometime (four that I can remember) that something really bad happened in the life of one of my online friends.

I always am at lost in this event, what can I do? obviously you send a mail, you say I'm thinking at you, but it always seems to little to do. Above all when what happened to your friend is so similar to what happened to yourself. I lost my father to cancer and that experience will always remains with me, and when the same thing occurs to my friends, it happens to me again for a moment.

Online you have the chance to meet a lot of people, and usually you exchange happy emails in which your life seems always an happy heaven. If something bad occurs, it remains with you, or maybe to post a memo saying to your friends that you are fine, but you need time. And it's true, and it's right.

Yesterday I had a bad feeling for one of my friend online; he didn't act as usual, him that is a so kind and big heart man. So I ask around to common friends, since I unfortunately suspected what it was happening, and all my worst suspects were real. Since he was a so gentle man, he replied to my condolonce mail, and I know that he will face this event and that he will be again with us soon.

With this my post I want to let him know that I'm really thinking at him, it's not only a standard thing you say in these events. I feel for you William, you are one of the best friend I made online.

Elisa

[identity profile] ebony-silvers.livejournal.com 2008-11-22 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)
My closest friends were made online. I've met several in real life, talked to more of them on the phone. We've gotten together, traveled to see each other, shared rooms at conventions. One of my friends stayed with me after Katrina. I know I have online friends I can call who would help me if I needed them. As someone else said, online is just like not online. Some relationships are deep and some aren't.

I'm glad you could be there for your friend.

[identity profile] elisa-rolle.livejournal.com 2008-11-22 10:08 pm (UTC)(link)
I'd like to do more, but there is an ocean between us. Thanks for your words, Elisa