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I don't know if you have noticed that it's months that I don't friend people. It's a decision, I love my LJ, but I know that it can be obnoxious, and since people tend to friend back when you friend them (not always but often), I don't want to force anyone. I had a very bad experience with a person on LJ that friended me back as soon as I friended him (he was a writer and I wanted to follow his work); not only he also posted about me, to welcome him among his friends... to then defriended me after few hours. Reason? I wrote too much reviews and he was not interested... What? My LJ is entitled "My reviews and ramblings", what do you think it's about?

But if someone friends me, 99,99% of the time I friend him back. If you friend me, I hope you know what I'm like and about. And obviously, if you defriend me, I defriend you back... sorry, it's not a vengeance, it's simply that I have a very long friends list, and I prefer to read of people who read me back (or at least I hope they read me back). I have only one exception, a person I friended almost at the beginning of my life on LJ, he is a good writer, he is having some problem, and so I know he doesn't read his friends page. But then he post more or less every six months...

Other exceptions are the feeds, I have some blogs I feed, and obviously they can't friend me back. But to feed them is my choice.

At the beginning when someone I like very much defriended me, I always asked why, I hate to loose people I like. Sometime I noticed it was a general thing (journal who defriended all people), other time it was a mistake (it happened), and most of the time it was something I posted (too many pictures out of a LJ cut)... I tried to be sensible, but guys, this is my LJ, and I can't everytime think to 500 people and more. Some people don't like picture, or maybe have connection trouble, other people like them very much... I like them very much, and I'm not the only one.

So in the end, I believe that the rule, You friend me, I friend you is the best for all. If you defriend me, I don't ask, I defriend you back. I haven't anything against you, it's not a personal spite.

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That's pretty much the way I do it, too.

I read all my entries on my flist, but with time constraints I hardly ever post comments. I do feel bad about that at times, but alas, what can one do, so I figure if anyone wants to defriend me because I don't comment, that's fine, too. I don't take it personally. I also don't post about myself at all anymore on LJ, it had become too public.

As you rightly said, it is *your* LJ, do with it what you like. :-)

Same problem here, I don't comment so much, and sincerely, from my side, I don't open so much LJ-cut, so, if you post something nice, or even important, under a cut, 90% of the time I don't read it. This is the reason why I tend to not use so much LJ-cut. I have a limit, maximum 3 pics out of a cut, all the other under a cut. Text under a cut only if it's very long. These are my rules, if you don't like them, you are free to defriend me.

I arrived to this conclusion since I was tired to see other journals and/or blogs repost things I spent hours to find, and then I posted under a cut to not "offend" my f-list. Then someone else posted them, free of cut and without credit to me, and maybe people on my f-list commented on the other blog, wow, wonderful pics / video / ..., you are soo good to find them! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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