Note on my F-list

[reviews_and_ramblings]

I don't know if you have noticed that it's months that I don't friend people. It's a decision, I love my LJ, but I know that it can be obnoxious, and since people tend to friend back when you friend them (not always but often), I don't want to force anyone. I had a very bad experience with a person on LJ that friended me back as soon as I friended him (he was a writer and I wanted to follow his work); not only he also posted about me, to welcome him among his friends... to then defriended me after few hours. Reason? I wrote too much reviews and he was not interested... What? My LJ is entitled "My reviews and ramblings", what do you think it's about?

But if someone friends me, 99,99% of the time I friend him back. If you friend me, I hope you know what I'm like and about. And obviously, if you defriend me, I defriend you back... sorry, it's not a vengeance, it's simply that I have a very long friends list, and I prefer to read of people who read me back (or at least I hope they read me back). I have only one exception, a person I friended almost at the beginning of my life on LJ, he is a good writer, he is having some problem, and so I know he doesn't read his friends page. But then he post more or less every six months...

Other exceptions are the feeds, I have some blogs I feed, and obviously they can't friend me back. But to feed them is my choice.

At the beginning when someone I like very much defriended me, I always asked why, I hate to loose people I like. Sometime I noticed it was a general thing (journal who defriended all people), other time it was a mistake (it happened), and most of the time it was something I posted (too many pictures out of a LJ cut)... I tried to be sensible, but guys, this is my LJ, and I can't everytime think to 500 people and more. Some people don't like picture, or maybe have connection trouble, other people like them very much... I like them very much, and I'm not the only one.

So in the end, I believe that the rule, You friend me, I friend you is the best for all. If you defriend me, I don't ask, I defriend you back. I haven't anything against you, it's not a personal spite.

Comments

[luscious-words.livejournal.com]

I typically friend back if I see someone who's friended me shares interests. If they don't seem to have interests in common with me, I tend to hold off friending them right away. (Especially since I have had a rash of spambots friend me recently.)

As much as I love my friend's list and enjoy reading what everyone has going on, there are times when it is overwhelming to try to play catch-up on everyone. At those times, I tend to skim and make comments on those that call for a response. :)

As for the photos under a cut, I think you do a very nice job of putting the appropriate photos under a cut and not blowing up the friend's list with all sorts of photos. I appreciate how judicious you are in your LJ-cuts. Plus, the eye candy factor cannot be denied. :D

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Thank you ;-) Glad to know that it can be said that I try to be "considerate". Elisa

[luscious-words.livejournal.com]

You're welcome. I think it's very safe to say you are considerate. And if you are unable to find a work-safe photo of eye candy, it's understandable. (And I just scroll by very quickly and make a mental note to ogle once at home. *wink*)

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Oh no, you can always find a work safe pic ;-) Today, for example, the one out of the lj-cut, it was not my favorite, but it was work safe. I put under the cut all the naked ones, even if for me it was a really artistic nakedness, but nevertheless, under the cut.

Maybe someone could object on the twin embrace... don't know. Elisa

[luscious-words.livejournal.com]

Meh on them if they object. :) The rest of us will enjoy the eye candy.

My thought is, if you don't like a certain photo, you can look at something else. It's the same principle as listening to the radio or watching TV...if you don't like what's on, change the channel or turn it off. Not too difficult. :)