A forced farewell

[reviews_and_ramblings]

In this moment I'm wondering if people know how hurt they can do with a simple click. I lost a friend on LJ some days ago, he removed me from his friendlist without a word. As I said in a previous post, I know that my LJ can be "particular" (to be gentle) and so I tried to justify that act. But it still hurt, since I believed we were friend beyond LJ. He has my email, he could say a word before doing something like that, and instead nothing. I didn't write to him since I had done in the past, when I noticed some strange things happening, a "cold" in our emails or comments that I hadn't found before, but he said that no, nothing had changed and I thought maybe it was a language barrier.

When he removed me from his friendlist, I removed him from mine too, it's my rule, but I fed his blog... stupid me, I was thinking to at least leaving a link. Then this night he removed me from another social network, again without a word... and now I hear the message loud and clear. I removed him too, from that social network and also from the feeds of my LJ. I also removed the tag I had of him but I didn't remove the posts.

I have an idea why he did so, and this make me even more sad. I really believed him a friend. I have learned a lesson more tonight.

ETA: I also deleted my account on Twitter, the worst personal experiences I had in these last months are due to that social network. If you were friend of me there, you know where to find me, I didn't friend no one on Twitter that it was not my friend also on LJ.

Comments

[elena-62.livejournal.com]

Hi, Elisa!

I've read your post late last night and I was too tired to react.

Obviously I'm sorry that you feel bad. Simillar things happen in the online world, some people think that to be ''virtually'' rude is allowed.

Now I'm glad to see that you got so many reactions so that you notice once more how much you and your work are appreciated.

But I especially wanted to tell you about my first *panic* reaction: I read the post's title and at first I tought you were talking about yourself, that you were thinking about not writing for a while. That would have been a loss! In fact I was relieved when I noticed that it was something completely different.

Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!

Best Wishes!

Antonella

[maximvanziel.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry for what happened to you and hope that you'll get it over very soon.

I've been thinking how to comment to your posts on this subject. To tell the truth, I can understand the person somehow(I have no idea who he is). Defriending without explanation was what he could, might be for your own good.
You've got so many clues and insist that can't understand yet?

If my comment offends you, you can defriend me. You might not be hurt so badly even if I defriend you without a message. Or, am I wrong?

[tc-blue.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

That's all, honey. Just *HUGS*

~Tis

[ebony-silvers.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. * hugs *

[hpstrangelove.livejournal.com]

Of all the things that get to me on the Internet, it's getting a notification that xxx has removed you from their friends list, and not knowing why. It's not like I post that much, so if the person isn't using filters to read their flist, I'm not spamming them or anything. I use LJ cuts. I mark any RL posts as such so if the person is there to read fics, they can just go on by.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I love reading your posts. You've added so much to my life. You certainly deserve better.

[merwan (from livejournal.com)]

First, I apologize for replying to an old entry, but I was browsing through your journal and I found it and the same thing had happened to me. I used to communicate with an (amateur) author (from FictionPress) for *months*. We exchanged emails every two days, sometimes every day, and I even helped her with some of the stories she wrote and published. But then one day, she just stopped writing! No warnings, no explanations, nothing. And the worst is that she began to post a new story, so I knew she was still active online. It hurt. So I totally understand what you went through, and I'm sorry it happened to you. *hugs*