A forced farewell

[reviews_and_ramblings]

In this moment I'm wondering if people know how hurt they can do with a simple click. I lost a friend on LJ some days ago, he removed me from his friendlist without a word. As I said in a previous post, I know that my LJ can be "particular" (to be gentle) and so I tried to justify that act. But it still hurt, since I believed we were friend beyond LJ. He has my email, he could say a word before doing something like that, and instead nothing. I didn't write to him since I had done in the past, when I noticed some strange things happening, a "cold" in our emails or comments that I hadn't found before, but he said that no, nothing had changed and I thought maybe it was a language barrier.

When he removed me from his friendlist, I removed him from mine too, it's my rule, but I fed his blog... stupid me, I was thinking to at least leaving a link. Then this night he removed me from another social network, again without a word... and now I hear the message loud and clear. I removed him too, from that social network and also from the feeds of my LJ. I also removed the tag I had of him but I didn't remove the posts.

I have an idea why he did so, and this make me even more sad. I really believed him a friend. I have learned a lesson more tonight.

ETA: I also deleted my account on Twitter, the worst personal experiences I had in these last months are due to that social network. If you were friend of me there, you know where to find me, I didn't friend no one on Twitter that it was not my friend also on LJ.

Comments

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Elisa

[hpstrangelove.livejournal.com]

Of all the things that get to me on the Internet, it's getting a notification that xxx has removed you from their friends list, and not knowing why. It's not like I post that much, so if the person isn't using filters to read their flist, I'm not spamming them or anything. I use LJ cuts. I mark any RL posts as such so if the person is there to read fics, they can just go on by.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I love reading your posts. You've added so much to my life. You certainly deserve better.

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Do you know what? That same person that removed me, last day posted on how he found something new on the publishing market, since he "periodically" browses the net... the strange coincedence is that he posted the morning after I posted a review of book where I stated the same exact thing. So I have the right suspect that he continued to read me, only that, for a reason or another, he doesn't want to let people know that he does. Elisa

[merwan (from livejournal.com)]

First, I apologize for replying to an old entry, but I was browsing through your journal and I found it and the same thing had happened to me. I used to communicate with an (amateur) author (from FictionPress) for *months*. We exchanged emails every two days, sometimes every day, and I even helped her with some of the stories she wrote and published. But then one day, she just stopped writing! No warnings, no explanations, nothing. And the worst is that she began to post a new story, so I knew she was still active online. It hurt. So I totally understand what you went through, and I'm sorry it happened to you. *hugs*

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Yes it's the sudden lack of someone you used to hear at least every one/two day that is more painful. But I realize that probably I gave my friendship to someone who didn't deserve it. Elisa