A forced farewell

[reviews_and_ramblings]

In this moment I'm wondering if people know how hurt they can do with a simple click. I lost a friend on LJ some days ago, he removed me from his friendlist without a word. As I said in a previous post, I know that my LJ can be "particular" (to be gentle) and so I tried to justify that act. But it still hurt, since I believed we were friend beyond LJ. He has my email, he could say a word before doing something like that, and instead nothing. I didn't write to him since I had done in the past, when I noticed some strange things happening, a "cold" in our emails or comments that I hadn't found before, but he said that no, nothing had changed and I thought maybe it was a language barrier.

When he removed me from his friendlist, I removed him from mine too, it's my rule, but I fed his blog... stupid me, I was thinking to at least leaving a link. Then this night he removed me from another social network, again without a word... and now I hear the message loud and clear. I removed him too, from that social network and also from the feeds of my LJ. I also removed the tag I had of him but I didn't remove the posts.

I have an idea why he did so, and this make me even more sad. I really believed him a friend. I have learned a lesson more tonight.

ETA: I also deleted my account on Twitter, the worst personal experiences I had in these last months are due to that social network. If you were friend of me there, you know where to find me, I didn't friend no one on Twitter that it was not my friend also on LJ.

Comments

[marquesate.livejournal.com]

Oh Elisa, I'm so sorry. I know how much this can hurt, and the worst is, when it happens without an explanation or without a proper talk. The dark side of the internet is that many (most?) people are prone to fall for the disinhibition effect. Meaning: things they would not do in a face to face situation they have no second thoughts doing via the medium of the internet. As if the person on the other end of the screen was not as emotionally involved or valid as someone is who sits in front of you.

Have a virtual hug, I know that isn't very much, but it's all I can do all the way from Scotland.

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

I cried for that person in the past, I even worried. I believed he knew that, but probably it's not. Thank you for the virtual hugs, I need that. Elisa