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reviews_and_ramblings ([personal profile] reviews_and_ramblings) wrote2009-06-13 11:08 pm

A forced farewell

In this moment I'm wondering if people know how hurt they can do with a simple click. I lost a friend on LJ some days ago, he removed me from his friendlist without a word. As I said in a previous post, I know that my LJ can be "particular" (to be gentle) and so I tried to justify that act. But it still hurt, since I believed we were friend beyond LJ. He has my email, he could say a word before doing something like that, and instead nothing. I didn't write to him since I had done in the past, when I noticed some strange things happening, a "cold" in our emails or comments that I hadn't found before, but he said that no, nothing had changed and I thought maybe it was a language barrier.

When he removed me from his friendlist, I removed him from mine too, it's my rule, but I fed his blog... stupid me, I was thinking to at least leaving a link. Then this night he removed me from another social network, again without a word... and now I hear the message loud and clear. I removed him too, from that social network and also from the feeds of my LJ. I also removed the tag I had of him but I didn't remove the posts.

I have an idea why he did so, and this make me even more sad. I really believed him a friend. I have learned a lesson more tonight.

ETA: I also deleted my account on Twitter, the worst personal experiences I had in these last months are due to that social network. If you were friend of me there, you know where to find me, I didn't friend no one on Twitter that it was not my friend also on LJ.

[identity profile] valkovalin.livejournal.com 2009-06-14 05:20 am (UTC)(link)
Hi, Elisa, I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened! No one can blame you for feeling shocked and hurt. Most of us would feel the same way if it had happened to us. These things happen from time to time, especially over the internet, and we can never really know why. It can take a long time to just let it go and realize that you did nothing wrong. You have my sympathy, and I'm very sorry that Twitter didn't turn out to be a better experience. It's okay. Concentrate on your LiveJournal. You've done great things with it, and it's a beautiful and welcoming place to be. Best, Val

[identity profile] elisa-rolle.livejournal.com 2009-06-14 07:24 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you Val. It's not self-deprecation, I know I did something it noised him, but still I don't think it is enought to break a friendship. But probably it was never a friendship from his side. Elisa

[identity profile] valkovalin.livejournal.com 2009-06-14 06:40 pm (UTC)(link)
You're right. If he valued the friendship so little, then it's better to have him out of your life.