reviews_and_ramblings | A forced farewell

In this moment I'm wondering if people know how hurt they can do with a simple click. I lost a friend on LJ some days ago, he removed me from his friendlist without a word. As I said in a previous post, I know that my LJ can be "particular" (to be gentle) and so I tried to justify that act. But it still hurt, since I believed we were friend beyond LJ. He has my email, he could say a word before doing something like that, and instead nothing. I didn't write to him since I had done in the past, when I noticed some strange things happening, a "cold" in our emails or comments that I hadn't found before, but he said that no, nothing had changed and I thought maybe it was a language barrier.

When he removed me from his friendlist, I removed him from mine too, it's my rule, but I fed his blog... stupid me, I was thinking to at least leaving a link. Then this night he removed me from another social network, again without a word... and now I hear the message loud and clear. I removed him too, from that social network and also from the feeds of my LJ. I also removed the tag I had of him but I didn't remove the posts.

I have an idea why he did so, and this make me even more sad. I really believed him a friend. I have learned a lesson more tonight.

ETA: I also deleted my account on Twitter, the worst personal experiences I had in these last months are due to that social network. If you were friend of me there, you know where to find me, I didn't friend no one on Twitter that it was not my friend also on LJ.

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I'm really sorry for what happened to you and hope that you'll get it over very soon.

I've been thinking how to comment to your posts on this subject. To tell the truth, I can understand the person somehow(I have no idea who he is). Defriending without explanation was what he could, might be for your own good.
You've got so many clues and insist that can't understand yet?

If my comment offends you, you can defriend me. You might not be hurt so badly even if I defriend you without a message. Or, am I wrong?

Truth be told, I don't understand if you are talking for ipothesis or if you are saying something true. About me having so many clues, I thought I had, and I wrote to him to ask if I was right, and he said no, I was paranoic, so, what I believe a possible reason he said no. When he defriended me, I thought it was for posting too much, and he didn't like what I post, and so, I thought, all right, I can understand that. But defriending me from another social network proved that it was no that the reason. So no, I have no clue left.

And I will never defriend someone since he commented on my LJ, I will ask explanation if that comment was rude, or I didn't understand it. Till this moment I have never defriended someone by my choice, I always defriended people who defriended me first.

Elisa

I thought it was for posting too much, and he didn't like what I post

It's not the subject of your posting too much or what you post. It's "how you post" them.
I know that you've been hurt deeply, but he must have felt uneasy or worse as far as he is not insane. He is just honest to his own emotion.

You believe that your journal has no relation with another social network, but your journal is the mirror of yourself. So he might take it as a part of your personality.
I'm not going to take his side. Only want to see the issue objectively. You've got enough words of sympathy and support from other friends, so there must be someone who see things from different pov.

Until now I've defriended people twice without an explanation.

Trying to explain it's difficult. Let only say that "how I post" is not reason enough, since he still has in his flist people who post things even more uneasy than mine (and I'm talking of lot and lot of picture of naked man, without cut, in plain sight), and apparently for them the parameter is different. I have never posted full nudity out of a cut. And even under a cut, I always try to post something with a reason, I don't do meat marked. Elisa

since he still has in his flist people who post things even more uneasy than mine

All right, you explained me now about it.
Since I don't know about the person and his friends, I can't guess their standards.
Weird. Why are you clinging to the nudity of the pictures you've posted? Did he blame you for that? I didn't mention about it in my previous comment.

Are you upset because you think that you've been thrown out of his groupies' list (supposed that he regards so). Then, he is such a person who don't respect you, what are you worrying about? Will you be satisfied if someone says how he is insane or one of his female friends were so jealous that convinced him to defriend you?

Listen Elisa, only one more thing. Everybody has his own feeling. I'm trying to be reasonable and kind.

Good night.

No, but he defriended me soon after I posted 3 pictures out of a cut, and the pictures where of male, so I can only guess.

And now I feel like I offended you somehow, I was only trying to explain. It's so hard to understand that I had feeling for that person beyond a mere online link, and what he did make me feel bad?

But good night.

Elisa

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